I genuinely feel this. I was in a relationship from 16 to 33 and had never lived alone. We split and i totally lost the plot. Constantly on tinder, meetinf anyone who would have me, practically begging guys to be with me. Now having discovered this sub a couple months back its made me rethink so many of my relationship decisions. All the controlling and compromising and jealousy and fear and being financially tied down and trapped etc. It makes me incredibly grateful that im financially independent, no kids, my own house and am at a distance from my shitty parents. Relationships can be great but you are much better off having no relationship than a shit one.